The past couple of weeks we have been especially blessed. We have had two different packages left on our door step, one specifically for our kids (so full of little toys and things the box wasn’t even closed all the way) and another one for the kids and us, as parents (Little People Nativity and some Christmas cash). I can’t even tell you what these few things have meant to me. Remember my post about not feeling like I matter, well receiving these unknown gifts made my heart burn. It was a tender reminder to me, that someone out there was thinking of our family. I have no idea who gave us those gifts, but the greatest gift they really gave, was love. It wasn’t about the gifts really for me, it was the joy that entered our home when our kids especially felt SPECIAL LOVE for them. I didn’t feel like we were worthy of such gifts, but the gift of love and joy are true gifts from a Heavenly Father that loves us. What a blessing to see this happen in our own home. Then this week, some special new friends, have picked our family to do the 12 days of Christmas to. I have no idea who it is, but our kids look forward to it every night.
To say that I don’t feel blessed, would be a lie. How blessed I feel by “earthy angels” who have shared love and joy in our home and continue to do so. What a blessing! I hope you are looking for the blessings in your life and in ways to be a blessing to those around you.
With all that said though, there is more. Some days I feel like I’ve got this parenting thing down, but other days I feel like a complete failure. I felt like this week has been a dismal failure. Maybe, it is way too many failures that have culminated. They have been complaining about EVERYTHING and one kid has even started the “I never get to do what I want to do…”. The other huge struggle this week…eating dinner.
We have been working on breaking our kids’ habit of being picky eaters. We have introduced a lot of new food along with new rules for dinner. One rule is they have to try 5 bites of whatever is new. They don’t have to LIKE it, but they have to EAT it. Well, tonight it was all out war. I was excited to eat dinner until the complaining started before I even sat down. I love cooking, I love baking, and it is hard to hear complaining before I even reach the dinner table. Ugh. This challenge of introducing new things etc., is not for the weak in spirit and consistency is the key, but tonight I snapped. I made my 4-year-old sit at the table until he ate a carrot and a potato (it was like ¼ of each). He did not like that. He sat there for a long time, with 3 bathroom breaks and lots of complaining. I finally let him leave, but he will be eating said food at breakfast and lunch if he hasn’t finished (and dinner is leftovers). Maybe I am too mean of a parent, but I am trying to show him that I will follow through and his complaining is not going to make his food go away. But, that doesn’t mean that I feel great about it. I feel like a total failure. Why can’t we just sit down for Sunday dinner, have a great conversation about what we learned about at church, and enjoy being together. Someday..
I feel like sometimes I don’t know how to be a mom, I don’t know how to teach them certain things, and I just hope that I am doing something right, because I feel like I am ruining them. With all that said though, I want the best for them. I want them to be able to be good people and good kids and respectable. I want to see what they are passionate about and what drives them. I love to see them create and imagine and grow and I marvel at all their little brains can do and learn in so short of a time. I want to be a close knit family, I want my kids to be each others best friends and to enjoy life together. I want them all to know that I will fight for them. I want to share, tell, and sink love deep in their hearts from their mom. I don’t want them to question at all that I love them, and I just hope that all my failures and shortcomings I will somehow be able to teach them to love and serve and care for each other and for those around them. I want them to be the people reaching out, like people have been reaching out to our family, instead for greedy gift hoarders. For Christmas I want our home to be a place of peace and a place where all love more.