Last month I read an article in our local newspaper that has stuck with me. I want to link to it here. Before you read it, have an open mind and think about what you can do to be better.
Here is the article, “Catching Stones vs. Casting Stones.”
I want to be a stone catcher. I want to be a stone catcher not to just people around me, but to my kids and to my family members. I am focusing on the people I love most because I feel like sometimes they are the people we can treat the worst. Lots to think about in this article. Tell me what you think.
I have had a hard couple of days. I don’t want to write about what has made it hard, I want to write about things I have learned from hard things and what I am choosing to focus on instead. But, by disclaimer…when things happen that are hard one thing I always do is turn to my Heavenly Father. I can definitely say that as I have prayed that I know that God is aware of me and has helped lighten the burden. Now onto things that I have learned, in no particular order…
–I can CHOOSE to love someone even if they don’t show, express, or seem to love in return. This is REALLY hard for me to do and it hurts REALLY bad, especially when it happens repeatedly.
– I can CHOOSE to hold onto the hurt or I can choose to put it behind me and hope for the best the next time. But I don’t have to let the negative thoughts hijack my life right here, right now, or for a whole week.
–When I CHOOSE to love people, my self-worth is not dependent on what they choose to do or not do with my love. People/or the relationship does not define me or make me inherently bad.
–I can CHOOSE to live my life with more meaning and more purposefully. I can still show and express love and compassion.
–Even though some people appear to not give in a relationship, that doesn’t mean that others cannot. My husband loves me more than I can express and I love him more than I can express. He understands me and loves me and is able to talk to me and help me. He is AMAZING and I will always have his love.
–I can CHOOSE to keep trying to show love and be part of people’s lives even though it makes me VULNERABLE (and I don’t like that feeling).
–I can CHOOSE to love myself even when others don’t, can’t or won’t reciprocate.
-I can CHOOSE to love!
Instead of dwelling on the bad I am working on focusing on what I learned and about how to put it into practice in my life right now. It doesn’t make it any easier that hard things happen, but our reaction to them can make all the difference.